Flowmance Rules — A Sirious Comedy

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From 2014 book The Rise of Superman — Decoding the Science of Ultimate Human Performance:

“Flow's two defining characteristics are its feel-good nature (flow is always a positive experience) and its function as a performance-enhancer. The [neuro]chemicals described herein are among the strongest . . . the body can produce.”

“A ten-year study done by McKinsey found top executives reported being up to five times more productive when in flow. Creativity and cooperation are so amplified by the state that [a] Greylock Partners venture capitalist . . . called 'flow state percentage'—defined as the amount of time employees spend in flow—the 'most important management metric for building great innovation teams.'

. . . Flow feels like the meaning of life for good reason.”

A flowmance co-produces flow that neither partner can produce alone.

From The Rise of Superman:

In jazz, the group has the ideas, not the individual musicians . . .

When performance peaks in groups . . . this isn't just about individuals in flow—it's the group entering the state together . . .

[T]here are extraordinarily powerful social bonding neurochemicals at the heart of both flow and group flow: dopamine and norepinephrine, that underpin romantic love . . .

Unsurprisingly, flowmance is an ideal kind of romance for many people.

From a December 31, 2010 article in The New York Times:

“In modern relationships, people are looking for a partnership . . . [C]lose partners 'sculpt' each other in ways that help each of them attain valued goals.”

“Caryl Rusbult, a researcher at Vrije University in Amsterdam . . . called it the 'Michelangelo effect' . . . ”

From a December 31, 2009 article on ScienceDaily.com:

A new international review of seven papers on “the Michelangelo phenomenon” shows that when close partners affirm and support each other's ideal selves, they and the relationship benefit greatly.

This serial novel is about anticipating the future of flowmance, for fun and profit.

Two of my expectations:

What I call Sirious technologies are coming soon.

Many flowmantics will use these technologies.

From 2012 book The End of Men (and the Rise of Women):

Steven and Sarah . . . are consummate “marriage planners,” the current reigning model among the professional class.

. . . [T]hey've planned everything: the exact timing of each pregnancy, how long Sarah will work at what job, how much money she will make. They haggle over the minute details and individual demands like two executives at a negotiation. They actually possess a piece of paper called the “Master Plan,” in which each partner lays out his and her duties and responsibilities, year to year.

. . . When [their son] Xavier's cloth diaper got dirty, Steven sprayed it and left it in the sink. (In the contract his duties here stop at “smearage containment,” but Sarah, who insisted on cloth diapers, has to launder them.)

Sirious technologies would help flowmantics design their Master Plans (i.e., their Flowmance Rules).

From 2014 book The Intelligent Web — Search, Smart Algorithms, and Big Data:

[T]here have been significant advances in the ability to automatically extract facts and rules from large volumes of data and text.

. . . The time is possibly ripe for large-scale automated reasoning systems to . . . resurface . . . in the guise of Siri-like avatars . . .

From 2013 book Who Owns the Future?, by Jaron Lanier:

[A] future industry of “decision reduction” . . . would . . . create bundles of decisions you could accept or reject . . .

[D]elegation to a huge decision-reduction cloud service worth hundreds of billions of dollars might be the best choice . . .

Another expectation of mine: Many readers of Flowmance Rules (FR) will become part-owners of the ideal website for finding flowmance. Reasons I expect this:

I will seek equity crowdfunding to provide the website.

Highlights of my business case for the site “guest star” in chapter one of FR.

I have a track record as a business innovator.

From a 2004 email sent to me by Amazon.com's first Director of Personalization:

Frank, I just spent about an hour surfing around your website with a bit of amazement. I run a little company . . . We are a team of folks who worked together at Amazon.com developing that company's personalization and recommendations team and systems. We spent about 1.5 years thinking about what we wanted to build next. We thought a lot about online education tools. We thought a lot about classified ads and job networks. We thought a lot about reputation systems. We thought a bit about personalized advertising systems. We thought a lot about blogging and social networking systems. . . . I guess I'm mostly just fascinated that we've been working a very similar vein to the one you describe, without having a solid name for it (we call it “the age of the amateur” or “networks of shared experiences” instead of CLLCS [i.e., customized lifelong learning and career services], but believe me, we are talking about the same patterns and markets, if not in exactly the same way). Thanks for sharing what you have—it's fascinating stuff.

From a 1998 email sent to me by the then Manager of the Learning Sciences and Technology Group at Microsoft Research:

Frank, you are a good man. Have you thought about joining this team? Your only alternative, of course, is venture capital. But their usual models require getting rid of the “originator” within the first eighteen months.

Future chapters of FR would help to popularize the crowdfunded site.

Planned spinoffs from FR would do likewise.

Welcome to the dawn of the Age of Startup Comedy. :-)

Enjoy FR!

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